Posts tagged ‘Marriage’

May 7, 2012

Back From a Wonderful Trip

I will be writing up a fitting post and sharing photos from an amazing trip to an amazing place with my amazing wife. Until that is ready thanks for all the support and hits while I was on Hiatus. I am back and the links are back as well!

April 25, 2012

A Brief Hiatus

My apologies as I am on a brief anniversary trip and am focused on the real story, 21 years of blessed and amazing marriage to one amazing lady. I plan to bring back some photos of this long anticipated getaway.

I am so thankful to see all the continued hits on Big Time Family even as it sits idle whilst we play. Do enjoy any and all the links and pic which come to you ad free from me and thanks for your understanding.

Big Time Blessings,


February 17, 2012

Twins In Marriage for Citizenship Conspiracy

Multiples are people and sometimes people just go out of bounds. These two  twins allegedly made $$$ just past the foul lines!

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July 22, 2010

Can God Trust You?

How much do you think God Trusts you? What does God trust you with? Would you like more from God? Do you think you could handle more? What would you say is too much for you to handle? These and other ponder provoking questions could be part of a savvy Gallup or George Barna group survey but no. These are just small pieces in of one of the major points of development that God wants expanded in every believer, Stewardship!!!

Stewards are the most trusted servants, the guys with all the keys. The first use in the Bible is where Abraham is lamenting having no son. The closet thing he has is Eliezer his steward who was his heir if no son was forth coming. The last use is Paul writing to Titus using steward of God to describe the function of a Bishop then listing the traits needed to be a Bishop/Steward. So you see Stewardship is a pretty big deal.

If properly understood Stewardship is literally foundational to our spiritual growth. If misunderstood well, consider the following. As men why does God give us wandering eyes and heavy libidos that are their weightiest when we are youngest and most foolish? God is not cruel or foolish but He does expect us to possess our own vessels. It is not supposed to be easy nor are we expected to be perfect, it is the effort and humility to reach beyond ourselves towards God for strength. In admitting weakness but not excusing our shortcomings we balance reliance on His Grace with our desire and responsibility to please and obey Him in humility.

This is how we progress in stewardship, part by God’s Grace and refiner’s fire and part by self-control and meekness, strength under control. Believing in His Grace and Faithfulness without abusing it and walking humbly within our abilities are what God is looking for in His Stewards. These are part of a foundation of character He can add to and build on.

As men we need to look back to that letter from Paul to Titus. What he gives greatest and first priority to for Titus in his search for; Bishops, stewards, elders, those that are qualified to be in spiritual service and leadership is that they have a successful marriage and family. Can they possess their vessels, love their wives as Christ loved the church, sacrificially that is, and in harmony raise Godly children? Then do people speak well of them? Can they handle their own money and not be greedy? So forth and so on.

God will put things in our lives and some under our stewardship. The first are our gifts, abilities and natural drives. Second are Christ, His Word and Holy Spirit to redeem and lead us away from the first gifts being our destruction. The second set guides us towards offering the first set back to Him in thankful submission and humble service. After this the key to having more keys in The Kingdom is having the self-control and sacrificial love about you to be a loving husband and father. You might remember that God has called Himself “a husband to the “widow” and “Father” to us all. This is His Heart and a high and needed Call in our carnal self-serving times.

So before you blast off to do your boys-night-out or softball practice or consider strategy over the stringer of lovelies you might be juggling. Ask yourself, do I want more of God and from God? Then consider how well you are handling your vessel and foundational relationships. If He cannot trust us with the things of this world do not expect much Heavenly power and responsibility to be coming your way here or in eternity. You might also remember what happened to the guy that put his talent in the ground. He lost it all but remember he chose to put in the ground.

After all this sanctimony, seriously consider the priority God places on family. Consider the example of sacrificial love that He sat before us. How much are you willing to give up? This is what determines how much you will receive. How much do you think you can handle, Brother? You might be surprised to find out that God has more faith and hope in you than you do.

July 8, 2010

You Should Be Committed!

In such a self-serving hedonistic time as ours how do folks make, manage and maintain a health marriage? Interestingly, this is one area where following Christ’s example might find us a bit stumped. Jesus never married. I do not care what Tom Hanks says. The apostle Paul was married back in his hometown of Tarsus. However, he could not even get his ministry going until both Tarsus and the wife were behind him. His advice basically on marriage was “if you don’t have to, don’t”.

Now we could lay out a good Christian comedy routine about here but marriage is not a joke, nor is divorce a laughing matter. Paul valued marriage but was committed to the ministry. It had to be his priority. He had learned that priorities mattered and will take us places. Indeed this is my first point. Marriage must be a priority that we are committed to in order to make it a trip worth taking.

I can hear you saying,”Well DUH Mike”! Just stick with me. Commitments are really about goals. This is where any couple can completely blow it. Trips can be nice but if we disagree on the destination, we have troubles. Too many couples, including the Christian ones, take off on their little train trip of life long love with rosy feeling, warm hearts and good intentions. Some soon find themselves disappointed and going back to the conductor because they did not have tickets to the same locale.

Goals, mutual goals must be in place if we are committed to reaching them. Having no mutual goals means, you have no real commitment. Mutual goals must also be more than wanting to have children and raising them from the same page but this is a good start. Sadly, you would be surprised how many folks even overlook this before signing the papers.

Here is my advice. Sit down together and talk about each others wants, needs, hopes and dreams. List them out, then begin to plan the short, middle, and long term plans to get to those relational destinations. In the effort, you will create mutual goals and mutual understanding. Even if the wants, hopes and dreams do not all come true. You will be fulfilling more than a few serious needs for a good and Godly marriage. Even if you do not like making lists JUST SIT DOWN AND TALK!

Take this advice and apply just half of what Jesus walked and talked about concerning, forgiveness, meekness, kindness and self-sacrifice. That is the example that will smooth out all of life’s travels. Then use those tickets for two on a trip well worth taking with a destination that is mutual and truly heavenly for those committed to getting there together.